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Goals Can Feel Impossible

November 18
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Picture this. It’s a Saturday morning. I feel some nerves, but I’m eager to start the day. It’s a big day!

Today I have decided to get rid of my caffeine dependence and plan my life. (Hah!)

I make myself a pot of decaf and some green tea (c’mon, cut me some slack), I eat my smoothie like its an ice cream sundae, I pack my bag and I head to the library.

I walk inside and breath in the smell of books. This is the place to be inspired. I wander the rows of books to set my mind in the right place. Then, I walk the perimeter of the library to find my perfect spot. Close to the corner but so close that I’m cornered.

I find it. The perfect cubicle. The cubicles immediately surrounding me are empty as is the desk directly connected to mine. I pull out my laptop, plug it in and arrange my green tea, water bottle, book and pencil around my laptop.

Ahhh…

I start to read and write. Goals for relationships, friends, career, health and faith. I’m on a roll!

The lack of real caffeine kicks in. Fatigue. Headache. Focus!

Then a boy sits across from me, invading my space. He smiles. I smile back. Grr.

Then the heat kicks on and there’s a subtle rattling noise. Click. Click click. Click. Click click.

Ugh. I pull out my headphones and put on some music. The sounds of smooth jazz fills my ears, but…

Click. Click click. Click. Click click.

Then a hand reaches over the divider with a piece of paper. Uhhh…? In scratchy handwriting it reads, “Hey, how are you?” I look at it, smile at him and pass it back shaking my head.

Does this kid know I’m twice his age? Is it not obvious that I’m WORKING?

Full caffeine withdrawal has set in.

Click. Click click. Click. Click click.

I give up. I pack up my bag and head home to take a nap. Goals half written. Life half planned.

This was a few months ago, and I still haven’t finished those goals. Michael Hyatt was not kidding when he said you have to do this in one sitting.

I know goals are important. Don’t we all? But that doesn’t make setting them any easier. As things are becoming more and more clear now, I’m planning a time to plan before the start of the new year. I’m planning to dedicate a whole day with coffee.

I’ll let you know when I figure it out.

Do you set goals? Do you stick with the goals you set? Do you have a formal system for setting, checking in and updating goals?

Mind, Soul

Why It Takes Me Months to Finish a Book

November 16
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I love to read. Really. I love to read all kinds of things! Thrillers, romance, creative nonfiction and straight-up nonfiction.

I always find myself drawn to nonfiction the most, but I’m the kind of person who reads four or five books at once so it takes me FOREVER to finish just one. I have them scattered around my house and office for every time of day.

In the mornings I read my Bible study and something inspirational. Right now:

  • Being Lutheran by A. Trevor Sutton: Our pastor recommended this book. Its an easy-to-read, relatable book full of quality material. Sutton covers history, doctrine, living faith and being Lutheran.
  • Wanderlust: A Modern Yogi’s Guide to Discovering Your Best Self by Jeff Krasno: A birthday gift from my thoughtful roommate. It’s beautiful and would look wonderful on a coffee table, but it’s also full of great information and sequences for yogis. I read it while I’m finishing my coffee and find myself wanting to get up and try out the moves, even in my work clothes.

At work during breaks I read work-related books. Business, marketing, planning. Right now:

  • Made to Stick by Chip Heath and Dan Heath: This book is fantastic. I’m constantly finding applications in real life, and my boyfriend, mom, coworkers and friends hear about it all. Engaging, funny and educational.

When I come home and throughout the evening I either read a fiction book or — wait for the real geek in me — a book on anatomy.  Right now:

  • Pilates Anatomy by Rael Isacowitz and Karen Clippinger: This covers the nuts and bolts, and I love learning about how my body moves throughout the day. It’s also helpful to keep the concepts in mind when I’m in my Pilates and yoga classes. I’m learning that some basic knowledge of anatomy is essential in a mind-body connection.

It can take me a long time to read just one of these books, but generally one will find its way to the top of my pile. I’ll bring that one with me wherever I go, and I will favor it over all of the others. Whoops.

Is it wrong? Inefficient? Unfocused? Maybe! But I like the flexibility it gives me. I like to have some Jesus, a little bit of emotional support and inspiration, a little business and a little body.

I’ll update you on which ones I finish and which ones I add to the list!

What are you reading right now? Do you like to read more than one book at a time? Do you have to finish every book you start?

Body, Mind, Soul

An Open Letter to Kate with Adult Acne

November 8
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Dear Kate,

I stumbled on your article, “Why I’m Rejecting Alicia Keys’ No Makeup Movement” on The Skinny the other day. I understand, and I am on your side. I can relate to the embarrassment, discomfort and even pain, of adult acne.

I had adult acne. Most people said they didn’t notice, but I always felt that was because of all my makeup and their pure kindness. So I understand where you’re coming from, and it breaks my heart.

It breaks my heart that you started your article by saying you’re “obsessed with your own face.”

It breaks my heart that you take photos to track your progress.

It breaks my heart that it interferes in your life in so many ways.

I agree that the media could do better by representing more faces with blemishes just like they can do better by representing more body types. The media sets an unrealistic expectation for our physical appearances and warps the idea of beauty.

I agree: that isn’t helped by Alicia Keys “No Makeup” looks that take hours of prep and hundreds of dollars in skin care. When you think your skin has to be perfect to go make-up free, wearing makeup is the easier path, and you shouldn’t be shamed for that.

It breaks my heart that so many women feel that their value lies in their beauty.

But mostly, it breaks my heart that you and so many other women are looking to others to make you feel adequate.

The truth is, you can’t depend on others to make you feel valuable. More “facial freedom” in the media will not make you feel more empowered or adequate. You have to find that inside yourself. More importantly, you have it in your identity as a Christian.

Before I found the root cause of my acne, I had to stop obsessing over my skin. I had to get on with my life, ultimately trusting that those who matter love ME and not my skin.

I think that alone was a key part to healing. Getting rid of acne can be a physical and emotional process. Another story for another post.

It was only when I stopped looking outside of myself for validation — boyfriends, friends, the media — that I truly felt empowered and adequate, painted face or not.

You asked where the role models with acne, eczema, and rosacea are. I wonder why you can’t be a role model with acne?

Why is it that we view Alicia Keys as a role model? It’s because of her quiet confidence. It’s not really because she’s a pop star. She happens to have a career that puts her in the public’s attention, but that doesn’t mean that we, as “mere mortals,” can’t be role models too. What if you were the woman that young girls saw as a role model because of your joy and confidence. Blemishes would be irrelevant.

The problems in the media may not ever be solved. Every time one complaint is addressed, another surfaces. We live in an imperfect, sinful world. The only relief can be found in Christ. Please Kate, stop looking to others to feel good about yourself. Find your value in you.

xx Margaret

Body, Mind, Soul

How My Passion Changed This Year

November 7
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When I was younger, I thought Poppy, my grandpa, had the coolest job in the world. He was a radiologist which meant he knew all about bones and breaks. He was a doctor who helped people without the blood and gore of surgery. I thought, That’s what I want to be when I grow up.

Poppy was so smart and kind, and he always encouraged us to get healthy naturally whenever it was possible.

I didn’t grow up to be a radiologist. I didn’t even grow up to be a doctor. I studied art and history, and I loved every bit of it! The quiet attraction to anatomy and the body never completely went away though.

Lately I’ve been hearing that our passions can change throughout our lives, and we don’t have to pick just one. What a relief. I don’t feel like I’ve wasted my life up to this point, and I don’t feel silly for wanting to pursue an interest that has nothing to do with art or history.

Hormones have always been a struggle for me — cramps, acne and mood swings. A few years ago when I was in grad school, everything came to a peak. As a 22-year-old student, the acne was embarrassing, the cramps were debilitating and the mood swings begged me to quit every month. I tried medicating and eliminating everything in its turn, but in the end it took cutting everything out, starting a careful regime of supplements and living as healthfully as possible so that my body could heal.

The changes and newly acquired self-knowledge have been empowering for me. My skin is clear, my cramps are more than manageable and my moods are stable. The best part is that I got here naturally. I am so excited about this, I’ll talk about it to anyone who will listen.

Twenty years after I let the dream of becoming a radiologist go, I can’t say I think it’s the coolest job in the world. I do think that anatomy is fascinating though, and I love the body’s ability to naturally heal itself. I’m shifting the focus of my blog to wellness so that we can create a community of women who work towards health by learning about and caring for their selves — body, mind and soul.

If you’ve been following me, you’ll notice some things changing:

  1. I will post more frequently and consistently. This month, I committed to blog everyday with BlogHer and NaBloPoMo (I’m still not sure if I am totally crazy for doing this).
  2. If you’re really perceptive, you might notice that the menu bar has changed. I’m simplifying things! I’ll be writing about different aspects of wellness — body, mind and soul — but you’ll find them all in one place for now. The home page.
  3. Finally, you’ll see the subject matter has changed. This blog started with a focus on creativity. I still think creativity is so important. In fact, it falls under the “mind” and “soul” parts of wellness. I just couldn’t limit myself to that facet of health anymore. The bones are calling ;).

Head over to my About page to learn more about this site and me!

xx Margaret